Dating rules 1 week
Dating rules 1 week
I would think things like, “Well, things seem good, but what if she’s doing something behind my back and playing me for a fool, etc.
I’m not going to be in something where I have to worry or wonder that the person I’m exclusive with is as ‘into’ the relationship as I am. I’m really not one to spoonfeed words to anyone reading my articles. However, in this case, I feel that the conversation points I laid out above do more to instruct than even my explaining of my viewpoint would have…So in this first section, I wanted to walk through getting on how committed he really is in the first place.As I’ve said many times before, it is in your best interest to remain single until a man steps up to enthusiastically, clearly and sincerely propose a committed relationship with you.At this moment, you are reading into the situation negatively, assuming that he has bad motives or could be playing you.The fact remains though that you don’t know, but hopefully having a conversation with him will bring you closer to knowing. It is true there are dishonest people in the world and it’s perfectly reasonable and healthy to be suspicious when you get the sense that you’re with someone who’s lying to you. However, there are times where we ourselves are paranoid…You’re just seeing what he’s doing online and that information is freely available to the world.
Your motivations for checking up on this are worth looking at, though, because it gives me the feeling that either something inside you feels like you don’t quite trust this guy or that you don’t trust the relationship you’re in to have trust as a quality (and so you’re always checking and testing because you don’t have that trust to begin with…
In this case, you know he goes on because you can see it.
But since the beginning of time, men and women have had to learn to trust one another in their relationship.
A problem with suspicion and snooping is: the more you fear and suspect, the more that fear and suspicion eats away at you and creates more fears and suspicions!
This creates a vicious cycle that destroys trust in the relationship and ultimately causes a problem where there was none. You have to remember that you don’t know his full story yet.
I can tell you from personal experience that this was a skill I needed to learn.